28 12 / 2010
Yes! This is a great rebuttal to all the former “nice guys” whinges
http://mightygodking.com/index.php/2007/12/16/the-internet-nice-guy-rears-his-ugly-head-once-more/
an excerpt that I loved:
More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren’t the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship.
You know what makes for a good long-term relationship? When the guy expects sex and adoration just because.
So, now, you’re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, “What happened to all the nice guys?”
Firstly, “douchebag” is one word, not two. So this Formerly Nice Guy lacks grammar and writing skills. No wonder he never gets laid. Doesn’t he know that chicks dig a dude with mad grammar skills? They are after me all the time to show me how I cleft a gerund, it makes them fucking swoon, it does.
Secondly, the bar scene is filled with Nice Guys just like our author here, except that instead of thinking that the Magic Path To Vagina leads through the Valley Of Dutiful Friendship, they think that it’s quicker to just get her drunk until her standards drop enough that they qualify. (Also, there’s plenty of people who go to clubs and bars just to drink and dance and have a good time. They, oddly, do not have a lot of trouble getting laid. Go figure.)
Well, once again, you did.
OH SNAP I DID NOT SEE THAT COMING
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy.
See, this is the part where I went “holy shit,” because normally in “I Used To Be A Nice Guy” type rants, this sentiment is only implied, a nasty little undercurrent of malicious envy and spite. But this guy comes right out and says it: if a guy acts friendly towards a girl, the girl has a moral duty to fuck him.
And fyi, the author is a straight male, WHO KNEW THEY COULD THINK?? ugghhh seriously, with all the misogynistic things I read, the part that often has me screaming is how debasing it is to the male sex!! Like the defense that men can’t be platonic with a female because men ONLY want sex from women, way to state that you’re barely above an animal when it comes to your emotions and self-restraint, and that you can’t see half of the human race as anything but mere objects to ejaculate into.
GAAAHHDAMNIT PEOPLE ARE INDIVIDUALS, HOW ABOUT YOU TREAT EACH PERSON YOU MEET LIKE ONE!! how is this such a hard concept?
